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What It’s Like to Date When You’re HIV Positive
It's not as bad as I thought (I mean, hello? This is Indonesia) (Illustration by Dini Lestari) The time I told a guy on Tinder that I was HIV positive he didn't believe me. "That's not funny at all," he wrote. "You don't joke about HIV." I was kind of expecting...
Should I tell my sex partner that I’m HIV positive?
So I received a text message the other day from a guy who basically told me that I was a c*** for not telling him about my HIV status. We hooked up like 1-2 years ago and, mind you, I already knew about my status at the time. In addition, I've been taking my...
There’s Life after HIV/AIDS
Remember that family member of mine who was diagnosed with HIV years before me? The last thing I heard from my dear mother was that he was currently lying unconscious in the hospital. I found out too late. Apparently he hasn't been...
His Love Is My Drug: Finding Love After HIV Diagnosis (Part 2)
Kids, before I was left without a job, a dear friend of mine told me about a gay gathering off Phuket, Thailand in the beginning of the year 2014. Of course, when I first decided to join (before my previous life was over), I did want to find sex and love at the event....
His Love Is My Drug: Finding Love After HIV Diagnosis (Part 1)
Kids, I’m going to tell you an incredible story. The story of how I met my husbro. This gonna take a while so you might want to get comfortable. Make a good cup of tea. Grab the cookie jar. Ready? Good. You see, before I met my husbro, I had a different life. That is,...
No Lifeguard On Duty – The Condom Checklist
The harsh truth of gay dating life is that there is no “lifeguard on duty.” Yes, “swim at your own risk” because no one will stop you, even when you get too close to “sharks.” The only thing that you can rely on is that little voice inside your head. Remember Olivia...
Your Life is Worth Saving: Get Tested
It was liberating, I must say, when I decided to disclose my HIV status on Magdalene a couple of weeks ago. I want to thank the editors for allowing me to share my story here. I received text messages, e-mails, and comments from old friends (including those who I...
Guy, Interrupted: How Being HIV Positive Opens My Eyes (via @the_magdalene)
It’s an old cliché, but like all cliches, it’s the truth – your life can change in the blink of an eye. Looking back, I should’ve been able to avoid HIV. I mean, I watched Philadelphia when I was still in elementary school so I was pretty much familiar with the...
Men who have sex with men: Hidden and at risk for HIV (via @RapplerID)
I got interviewed by Febriana Firdaus from Rappler Indonesia on the #WorldAIDSDay. I feel honored to be asked to share my experience about gays and men who have sex with men (MSM) in this country. And, I think this is the first time I got to be the person...
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